give up

If something is not working after diligent effort. Quit.

Spend the time elsewhere. You only have about 4000 weeks in a life.

The etymology of decide is ’to sever/remove/cut away’. Decision making is about removing.

Have only a few priorities. Let go of the rest

If you scatter your attention too much, you accomplish nothing.

Sunlight on a log does nothing. But when you focus the light with a magnifying glass, it catches fire

Let go of old items. Old personalities and identities. Old goals.

This frees you up to throw yourself fully into the few things that matter.